By Sheila Arkee
A devoted reader of Post Secret, I saw this postcard in last week’s post and it’s stayed with me for several reasons.
First of all, I want to reach out and tell this lady that she is FINE the way she is, and the difference between love and being alone has nothing to do with the way she looks. There are women who are considered the most beautiful women in the Universe who struggle with love (see: Halle Berry).
Also, I can kind of relate in a way. For many, many years I was ashamed of my appearance and had a paralyzing fear of being judged by the world. I never wore open-toed shoes and had opaque polish on my finger nails 24/7. Why? I have psoriasis under my nails, and it isn’t the most attractive thing in the world. After many years I finally came to terms with my uniqueness by a group of friends who gathered together to tell me, “Who cares?!?!”
And so I decided to let go and stop caring about what the world thought and did what made me happy, investing in open-toed shoes and letting my finger nails go without polish just because. Freedom never felt so free.
I still get self-conscious about my nails – it’s only human. Sometimes my psoriasis in my nails is under remission and not so bad, and then there are those other times.
After being sent this gorgeous translucent pink polish to review, I was extremely hesitant to post these photos of my nails as they are. It’s a “good” period, but still … there’s always that little tiny bit of fear hanging over my shoulder.
You know what, though, this is who I am and I have a functioning body, and arms and legs that work. How can I preach self-acceptance if I am not fully accepting of myself? If other people don’t like any part of ourselves, they can bump off! For the record, I’m still working up the courage to wear a bathing suit … lol! I’m human, too!
The lesson I learned and hope to share with others? Love yourself. As RuPaul so famously says, ‘If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?’
*Nail polish is Essie’s Blushing Bride and was provided by PR for consideration.